I have literally made about every mistake you can make in business. I forgot what I was saying on stage speaking to a group of 6000 people. I have botched phone calls, messed up marketing materials, screwed up projects, hired the wrong people and made bad decisions and costly mistakes.
On the flip side: I did get hired to speak to 6000 people, fixed mistakes in marketing materials, saved projects at the edge of disaster, learned to deal with clients and suppliers, made great decisions, and made some good money.
I teach people to learn to fail their way to success (to go for no) and myself have had plenty of failures followed by great success. I have literally failed forward and heard lots of No's. I can't wait to share just some of the lessons learned on my journey this Monday with Michele Price on Women in Business!
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Thursday, April 7, 2011
The Secret of Not Taking it Personally
I don't know about you, but I have almost a pathological desire to be liked by everyone I meet. And while you might not be so extreme I think when people like us, like our product, like our service - it's easy to make it personal because we want to be liked. The truth however, is that no matter how wonderful we are, people's preferences, desires, are their own. We see this when we think about people's preferences for things. All things are neutral. They only have meaning when we put our own "stuff" - preferences onto them.
So it's no surprise then, that when it comes to people NOT liking us, our product, or service we've trained ourselves to also take it personally. This makes sense because if the good stuff is about us then so must the bad be. And when it comes to Go for No, people often ask how they can stop taking the No's personally. It is imperative that you start to understand that you cannot take it personally! This is one of The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz:
Don't Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
Ultimately the secret is, you can't anything personally. That's right, even the good stuff. Anything means everything. Read The Four Agreements, it can change your life in this area. You can learn to see that all people's perceptions, reactions, etc. are all about them, ironically not about you - and it can free you.
So it's no surprise then, that when it comes to people NOT liking us, our product, or service we've trained ourselves to also take it personally. This makes sense because if the good stuff is about us then so must the bad be. And when it comes to Go for No, people often ask how they can stop taking the No's personally. It is imperative that you start to understand that you cannot take it personally! This is one of The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz:
Don't Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
Ultimately the secret is, you can't anything personally. That's right, even the good stuff. Anything means everything. Read The Four Agreements, it can change your life in this area. You can learn to see that all people's perceptions, reactions, etc. are all about them, ironically not about you - and it can free you.
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